Thus far, everything has gone as planned.

I woke up, chatted with POI on the phone, went to the kitchen to have a bowl of Frosted Miniwheats then went to the driving range with my mother. We discovered that the golf club in the neighboring city is quite nice, and not too expensive. We each hit one hundred balls, mine going much further than my mothers' which prompted her to ask me for tips.

I have had exactly one "lesson" from my brother, who used to play semi-regularly when he lived in California. Bend your knees. Stick your butt out. Keep the left arm straight and your eye on the ball. Swing.

I swung a good twenty, twenty-five times before I ever made contact with the ball.

For golf, I had not beginner's luck but second timer's luck.

Two weeks ago I revisited the driving range in New York with POI, who likes the game, preferring to have a beer or two to loosen up. We biked to the waterfront driving range and I watched him play before hitting a few on my own.

"You're pretty good," POI noted.

"Hm," I said. I agreed. But as with most things I do (or eventually give up on) consistency was an issue.

My mother, I observed this afternoon, would like to be able to drive the ball out much further than she currently does. Her range hovers around 100 yards, usually just below.

"I'm terrible," she kept saying, but her shots were consistently straight. The sound her driver head made upon contacting the ball quite appealing.

I recorded a few of her swings on my iphone, saying things like, "Keep your arm straight," and "Lift the club higher when you pull back," in Chinese, but was aware that the entire situation was very blind leading the blind. I wondered if the more experienced people to our left and right were chuckling to themselves.

My first thirty or so shots with the driver were consistent too, until I discovered I was terrible on the irons and much better on the woods. I used the driver to hit the last twenty balls, none of which went as far or straight and flat as the first thirty. Consistency, where'd you go, I muttered to no one. Still, my mother was impressed and said it was a shame I didn't start earlier.

"I wasn't interested back then," I said, shrugging.

She thought my tips were good. I'm pretty sure we both imagined it, but she seemed to be hitting just a few yards further by the end of the bucket.

"Take lessons when you get back to New York," she said, when we were finished. I nodded. That might not be a bad idea.

We came home and had lunch. My mother fried a fish - scallions, soy sauce, sugar, rice wine - and my father suggested we finish off the coffee ice cream.

"Time to buy more," he said, "though no one eats it with me when you're not home."

Everything as planned, this Saturday afternoon. Then I went to my room, called POI. He picked up and I started to cry.

The vestiges of our morning conversation. In POI's words, I had tried to start a fight because I felt he hadn't called enough over the past two weeks.

"But we talk every day," he had said in the morning, though by "talk" he meant "text."

"It's not the same," I said, because it's not, "And remember. It's a privilege to talk to me on the phone."

Eventually we were laughing. We had hung up shortly before I left for the driving range, he feeling as though everything was resolved because there had been nothing wrong to begin with, and I feeling a hairsbreadth better, but mostly needy and uneven.

I spent the last two weeks telling my entire family that I was happy in New York, in my relationship, in school (which hasn't started).

"This time around it's very different huh?" my cousins asked, "So different from your first time."

"Yeah," I said, "So different and so good."

It's true, but I worry about my internal consistency, none of which is documented via the usual channels. What makes me feel happy and steady and at peace one minute and another, say, when I'm packing to leave one home for another, off-kilter and confused? I didn't want to pull POI into this monologue - the "home" question. The what are we how are we who am I what is the future question. What comes tomorrow and the day after and the month and years and incredible vortex after? I didn't want to pull him into the one-woman fray, but I had to, because it's sort of what you sign up for when you date someone with a lot of words.

"I feel strange," I said to him now.

"How so."

"I don't know," because at that point I didn't. But we talked and just a few minutes later I knew.

The fact that there were two sets of keys on my dresser, one with a Prius key and another with cards to the New York Public Library and Brooklyn Fare. The fact that I was packing again, taking a few more items of my room with me - things I had thought, when I set them down on whichever particular surface, would stay for many years if not forever. The fact that I spent several days mulling over whether to bring said items - because do they belong at this home or the other? The fact that I'd come back this time, filled with the comforting confidence one has when one returns to a familiar city with familiar, loving faces, only to arrive and feel as though I'd forgotten to bring something important.

I told POI so, though not in those exact words. When I cry the words seem to drip down my face and I often can't say anything for interminable minutes.

"I think I get it," he said.

And maybe he does. But more importantly, I got it.

Medusa, Mozart

Last Saturday, I permed my hair. A digital perm which is supposed to be not only better for your hair but also produce more relaxed, natural results. I had a regular perm back in elementary school. The same time I had braces and short hair. I went to school the next day and a jackass with poetic leanings called me Medusa. By lunch he had revised it to "Metal Mouth Medusa."

Alliteration. Gotta love it.

I avoided perms for a while until I was twenty-five, when I discovered digital perms. So that's why Korean and Japanese girls have those glossy, glorious looking body waves. I signed up for one and it was a big hit. A friend said, "Whoa, you actually look feminine for once." My mother said I looked very romantic, like Kate Winslet from "Titanic." "...Thanks mom." A guy I met online and went on two dates with said my personality was like my hair, "Bouncy." It was a nice thing to say. Unfortunately his personality was like his hair, flat.

I've had other perms since then, but spaced out to let my hair recover. Also, in New York these perms are crazy expensive. Instead, I've been patient, growing my hair out, trimming it every few months to keep it healthy so that I could damage it all in one go for a digital perm, all in the name of femininity.

I sat in a Korean-owned Irvine salon for five hours getting it cut and permed.  My stylist was pregnant and very pretty. She complimented the strength of my hair and told me about her husband who taught Tae Kwon Do. She was going to have another daughter and my goodness your hair is really strong I need to apply the relaxer twice. Set the temperature higher than normal. My neck got close to burning quite a few times and when it was finally done, I was running late for my cousin Angela's housewarming dinner.

I walked in, aware of how curly my right-after-perm hair was. I prayed that it would not stay this way.

"Be honest," I said, plunking myself down and feeling my hair swing up and down, "Do I look like Mozart?"

My mom paused a moment too long before saying no, but her eyes said, "A little bit."

"It's fine," my cousin Angela said, her eyes saying the same thing, "It'll relax."

I knew this. But my other perms had not taken five hours.

Later, we moved from the restaurant to Angela's new house. Grandpa, who'd sat at the other end of the table at dinner, came up to me now.

"It's time you got a haircut," he said.

I laughed ("Oh Grandpa, so acerbic and witty and sarcastic and funny"), and wandered off to see Angela's house, a cozy duplex in Irvine with a gleaming kitchen and hardwood floors.

An hour later, I readied to leave.

"Bye grandpa," I said, but he waved me over.

"Really," he said again, a shade of urgency in his voice, "It's time you got your hair cut."

"Oh you were being serious?"

"Of course!" he looked surprised, "Why would I joke about these things?"

I had assumed someone told him why I was late to dinner.

"I was just at the salon," I told grandpa, "I just got my hair cut and permed." For nearly two hundred dollars! I wanted to add, but decided not to. Didn't want to give a frugal man an extravagant nosebleed.

He leaned back with a bewildered look, "Then why does it look like that?"

First Impressions IV

"I'm being serious," POI repeated, "My mom is a hippie liberal who loves everybody. If you say anything racist in front of her, she will hate you." 

"Dude," I said, myself becoming serious, "Don't tell me how to behave." 

I had just made dinner for POI and Courage at my New York Palace and was clearing the table. POI's assumption that I lacked the self control to watch my mouth - especially in front of his parents - irked me. I washed the dishes, feeling my irritation grow. I clanged pots and pans for emphasis.

"Calm down," said Courage, "You know what POI means."

I threw her a raised eyebrow. Of course I knew what he meant. He had basically insulted my upbringing and called me a dumb racist heathen. But did he know what I meant?

I was more than polite; I was empathetic and kind and warm and tactful. All things my mother, who adhered to the same values, had thoughtfully beat into me.

When I was a kid, I threw a few temper tantrums at the usual places: Toys R' Us, the circus, the Forum Shops at Caesar's Palace Las Vegas, and consequently had some manners smacked into me in the restrooms.

Once, I gave a sullen glare to an auntie on my way out of Chinese school. I'd gotten a bad test score and knew mom would not be happy. Catching me glaring at the auntie made her even less happy and later that afternoon I learned: part of being my mother's daughter was smiling and being pleasant to people even if inside I felt wretched.

When my parents had guests over for karaoke parties and potlucks and old Chinese people tomfoolery - which was often - my mother expected my brother and I to be out of our rooms when the guests arrived, ready and waiting by the front door all smiles, house slippers in hand.

Would you like some tea, Mrs. Chen?

Hi Mr. Liu! Long time no see! How's your son/daughter/maltese doing? Dental school/MBA/second kidney surgery? Wonderful.

Ah Aunty Pang! It's so good to see you again...Yes, I am still single.

When you're young, these things seem like punishment and social drudgery. And they are...until they aren't. Your parents' friends notice and start praising your warm, bubbly demeanor and ability to hold not only interesting but also interested conversation with them, whose worlds are connected to yours only because they are your parents' friends.

The grand takeaway from my upbringing, some subtler and less painful than others, to be not only polite but also generous with one's personality, to have the right phrase for the right time, to know how to make talk both large and small, and to be genuine while doing so was, "Whoa, it makes me look and feel really good as a person," and more important, "I like being liked."

As a result, my parents' friends loved me. My friends' parents loved me. And the parents of all the guys I never dated but might have - well, they would have loved me too. Because it's really hard not to. 

And besides, wasn't everyone a little racist? But you grow and, if you're a regular human with heart and brains, discover your prejudices are flexible and ever-changing and sometimes directed at yourself and your own ethnicity, which occasionally clashes with traits tied to your nationality. You make friends with different people, even a few ________s and ________s and though sometimes you're like, "Jesus, you're so _____," or "That's such a ______ thing to do," you still like them as people.

AND ANYWAY, who was he to admonish me about how to act? He who'd been advertised as offensive? He who had offended me on the first date and then again and again in little ways, up to the present moment? He who called poor people "Poors" and fat people "Fats" and his female friends "Bitches" and his girlfriend "Ho-bag" (okay so a lot of people call me "Ho-bag", but still)?

Who was anyone to admonish anyone about decorum and decency? I had my own hesitations about him too, and how he might act when meeting my parents, most of them not unlike that one scene from that one terrible movie about repressed, submissive Chinese women stuck in bad marriages.  

But I had been, up until that point, willing to bring him home without a single word of warning because I figured I was dating a.) a well-adjusted adult who b.) I really liked and who c.) would care enough to want to make a good impression and thus know how to conduct himself.

Apparently POI did not feel the same.

You're not perfect either, buddy. 

Had I said this aloud POI would have said in his irritating tone of reason, "We're not talking about me, we're talking about you."

But I heard it anyway and slammed the last dish into the cabinet, hoping I hadn't cracked it because I had only bought four and Ikea was really far away.

"Simmer down, simmer down," POI said, leaning back into the folding chair (also from IKEA).

"Don't tell me to simmer down!"

"I know you know how to behave, I'm just mom would not find any racist jokes amusing."

This was back in early March, a full month away from our even broaching the subject and four months away from my actually meeting his parents.

Inside my head I continued to snarl at him.

You haven't even INVITED me to meet your parents and you're warning me how to behave? Thanks for the indefinite amount of time to practice acting like a non-bigot.

Which is to say, we worked it out. 

Which is why I ended up sitting next to his mother in his parents' cozy living room in the middle of a very pregnant pause.

I looked down at a fluffy white dog named Smoot but called Chicken sitting near my ankles, wondering not where my manners were but where in hell my brain had gone.

I did the thing I was not supposed to do.

I said something racist in front of his mother. 

Home, Alone

The toughest part about coming home is also the most wonderful part. Mostly, making time for everyone I want to see.

Except this time, people were expecting more than just me.

"Where's POI?" Aunt Angelina exclaimed when I showed up for dim-sum.

I shrugged, "He had plans."

"Is POI here too?" a friend texted.

"Plans," I texted back, "He had some."

"Your friend is welcome to come too," Aunt Jin-Feng said, inviting me to my cousin's fancy birthday party at Souplantation tomorrow night.

"My friend?" I was confused, then realized I was Chinese and my aunt was Chinese and I shouldn't have been confused because while the term "boyfriend" exists in Chinese, its application is like that of a pistol: just because you have one doesn't mean you should use it.

"Ah my 'friend' is not here," I said, "He had some family plans. But perhaps next time."


The men were less fussed. POI included.

I texted him this morning, "My entire family is like, 'Where's POI?'

"Next time," he wrote.

"Yeah, otherwise they will think I made the whole thing up."

"You'd be a fiction writer then."



My uncle Louis swung by and gave me a big hug.

"You're back!" he said, then nodding almost gravely, asked, "And school. How's that going?"

"I'm on summer break," I said, "I start school in two weeks."

"Great," he said, then looked around with an expression that said, 'Something's missing.'

I braced myself.

"Where's your mom? I'm supposed to take her to the car dealership."

Later that afternoon Uncle Jin picked me up for dimsum and asked how my boyfriend was doing in San Francisco.

"SF? He lives in New York."

He scratched his head, "That's odd. Why did I think San Francisco?"

I opened my mouth, ready to explain that E, the girl who'd set us up lives in San Francisco and perhaps facts had gotten scrambled while the details of my relationship were being passed from mom to aunt to aunt to uncle, but my grandpa came out of the house just then.

Grandpa waved to me, "Welcome back."

He gave no indication that he expected anyone else. Asked no questions. I smiled.

"Let's go," he said, "Lunch."


At dimsum, my aunt bemoaned the fact that two years ago my cousin had brought her then boyfriend to meet the grandparents. They broke up less than three months later.

"Had I known they wouldn't be together three months later I would never have arranged that dinner!" She put her hands to her forehead, "And at this very restaurant!"

I assured her, sitting atop the pile of wisdom I'd accrued in the last year, that she couldn't have known. No one does, really, until it happens.

"Still," my aunt said, putting her hand on her forehead, "Grandpa must think she has a new boyfriend every few months."

I looked at Grandpa, who didn't appear to be listening. He had eaten more than usual and was probably looking forward to his afternoon nap.

"Do you want to meet POI?" I asked him.


"My...uh, friend."

He sighed and shook his head, leaned back.

"You young people. It doesn't matter if I want to meet him. If you like the person and want to be with him, then I'll meet him."

"Good point Grandpa." I reached for another cream bun, a dessert we both loved, and asked if he wanted half.

"I'm good."

"No no," my aunt said, "just put it on his plate."

"I'm good," Grandpa said.

"Put it on his plate."

I put it on his plate. He smiled, and shaking his head, ate it.

First Impressions III

POI, as promised, was quite offensive.

I showed up ten minutes late to our first (and second and third and many thereafter) date, out of breath. I apologized profusely, made sure my voice was the right (higher) octave.

"Sorry! I'm so sorry!" I said, taking in his freshly shaven head and face, "I'm so late!"

He stood up from his seat at the bar (like a gentleman), put his phone away (like a polite human being) and gave me a stiff one-armed hug (odd).

"Yeah, you are," he said.

I was offended. My expression, I hope, replied, "That's for me to apologize for (which I did) and you to brush off. Ass."

I was offended again during dessert. We had ordered tiramisu and while waiting for it to arrive, I spent a good five minutes telling POI how much I loved cream.

"Whipped cream, sour cream, mascarpone, Greek yogurt..." (I am always reminded of those scenes in "Forrest Gump" when Bubba tells Forrest of all the ways he loves to cook shrimp). I watched POI watch me then watched as his gaze shifted to the waiter's hand place a disappointingly small plate of tiramisu on the table.

"Anyway," I continued, picking up my fork, "I just love cream. Or anything with a cream-like texture." *

As I spoke, POI, not listening at all, nodded absent-mindedly and scooped up the entire top layer of mascarpone, leaving nothing but mushy lady fingers on the plate. I stared in first date horror, my face incredulous as he inserted the heaping spoon into his mouth and pulled it out again. The spoon gleamed wretchedly. Sure, some fool in the kitchen had plated the tiramisu sideways - but still: it was not two seconds after my "I Love All Things Cream" speech.

"You ate all the cream," I said. Whatever incredulity I was attempting to contain was not contained.

POI, realizing his error, gulped down the rest of the cream.

"Oops," he said.

"You messed up. "

"I didn't know!"

I shook my head, "You messed up so bad," I said.

"It was right in front of me and I just took a bite. I didn't know it was all the cream. I hate cream..."

"I don't care," I said, crossing my arms, "That's just rude."

I was just beginning to enjoy the mini power trip occasionally afforded to girls on the first date. I watched POI process this information; he was at a crossroads.

They say in the beginning of a relationship, precedents must be set. A general rule of thumb: don't start things you can't keep up. "Can't" meaning "won't" because it's not in your nature. POI, I've come to learn, is not an apologizer in the conventional sense. The word "sorry" exists in his vocabulary, but he rarely employs it and if ever, then in a way similar to that one irritating hashtag: #sorrynotsorry.

When they do make an appearance however, POI's apologies are tiny syntactical marvels:

"That was not good strategery on my part."

"That was not my best play."

"I will try harder to be a better man."

Nix that last one. Pure fantasy.

Called out by a cream lover as having committed an irreparable first date faux-pas, POI decided fear was not the answer. He did what he often does best. He smiled a damn smug smile and batted his eyelashes.

"Well, actually it was delicious," he said.

My own smug smile fell away. I considered punching him in the throat - the table between us was not so wide. What insolence!

They say too, that minus the dunces who love blindly and think with their kneecaps rather than an ideal balance of logic and intuition, people know what they're getting into. Mostly, they just can't put it into words.

I was offended by all the aforementioned slights as, I'm sure, POI was by mine, most of them likely beginning, "You white people..." ** but felt a non sequitur - I wanted to see him again.

On the subway home, I analyzed the night's data points:
  • We sent the waiter back four times because we were talking so much. 
  • He called me out on being late. 
  • It was apparent, after lengthy discussions about family, food and travel that we agreed: all were good and important. Want more (in varying degrees). 
  • He ate all the cream. 
  • We both wanted, after dessert, for the night to continue and walked to a bar down the street. 
  • He did not apologize for eating the cream.
We took the same train home and POI had, as the train pulled into his station, reached over with one arm to grab my face. He kissed my cheek and said with brusque nervousness, "I'll talk to you later, yeah?" Hopped off. I found that mildly offensive too, but also endearing - a perplexing combination of feelings that would underpin most of our interactions:

I'm offended! But...touched. 

Offended or not, my gut told me POI would not be easy to date, never mind be with in a far-flung long distance relationship. But logic, a much better mathematician, added it all up.

"Shut up and smile," she said as the train lumbered forward, "You had fun."

*For you chortling imbeciles with "That's what she said" on the tip of your tongue, shove it. An original thinker you are not.
 **POI hates it when I generalize about white people, even though I soothe him by saying it's something all Asian people do.

First Impressions II

A friend, also a denizen of SF, likes to say, “To get what you want, you have to tell the universe.”

I didn’t realize that telling E my ambitions in New York (aside from becoming a National Book Award winning and best-selling author) to "date up a storm," was doing just that, with a few minor tweaks made by the Universe itself.

Apparently what I wanted was a bald white guy who worked in analytics and whose idea of an endearing pet name is “Ho-bag.”

The Universe hears – I know it does – but I’m not sure it listens.

The Universe also reminds me of POI; when they want to, they are capable of doing good, swift work. Otherwise they take their slow ass time providing things they know full well you deserve and you want to strangle them.


Less than a month later, the day before I left for New York, I was at the bachelorette’s wedding in San Clemente, Calfornia, sitting ramrod straight in a very snug chartreuse bridesmaid dress, wondering if I could eat the palm-sized portion of steak in front of me and leave the table with the dress intact.

My phone lit up. It was E.

"Betty!" she texted, “I want to set you up with someone!”

I raised my eyebrows and looked at the empty seat across from me where, just a few minutes earlier, there had sat a hilarious groomsman who, before and during the wedding, had showed plenty of interest in “getting to know me.” Once the bar opened however, he had boozed up and was last seen slipping off behind some palm trees with another bridesmaid, equally boozed up.

A good reminder, I thought, that douchebaggery existed in every city.

I ate a bite of steak and tried to breathe. So far so good. I put the fork down and texted back.

“Hey E! I’m game. But in SF?”

“In New York! Except he’s working in London right now, but it’s temporary. He’ll be back after winter.”

Hm. Via text, we worked out the logistics. He was back in the States for a few weeks – both for work and vacation. He was in SF now but would be in New York for about two weeks after I moved there - we were arriving a day apart - then he’d head back to London.

“He’s really funny,” E wrote, “but he can be kind of offensive.”

“Oh, okay,” I said. This was a strange introduction.

“But I thought ‘It’s perfect’ because you can be kind of offensive too!’”

I snorted, which stretched my dress to max capacity. I texted back, “Wha…” but rolled with it, “Yeah,” I said and added without thinking, “You can tell him I’m racist too.”

E, playing telephone/middleman/matchmaker, wasted no time dispatching a flurry of texts to her friend who was with POI.

I just met her this year but she's really cool.

In the heavens, God nodded.

She's a little racist. But who isn't? 

Right? Right?

Oh and her last name is 'Ho.' 

Her friend relayed this vital information to POI, who said, "I have to meet this girl."

Some people have really high standards.

Photos were exchanged. He had no hair, but did have a nice smile and bright, kind eyes of indeterminate color. E sent him an Instagram I'd taken earlier that day, in full professionally done bridesmaid hair and makeup - basically what I look like...never. But it was established that neither of us were fat trolls; the handoff was made. My number was transferred from E’s phone to her friend’s phone to POI’s phone where a new text box was opened.

My phone blinked again. I had just finished the steak and was wondering when my now-married friends would cut the cake.

“This is POI,” texted POI.

“Hi!” I wrote, though my face bore the expression one wears when one’s dress is too tight and there is still dessert to be had.

"Quick, what are your two least favorite races," he texted.

I responded in two seconds flat with  ____and ___ (though I'll leave this to your imagination. Wouldn't want to lose them as a demographic).

I was (half) joking but if POI took it the wrong way, then, as he likes to say, "So it goes." Or as I like to say, "Your loss."

He waited a few beats then wrote, "Great. Are you free next week for dinner?"

My eyebrows rose again. This could be interesting.

The emcee announced the cutting of the cake followed by dancing. I picked up my phone.

I am, I wrote, but didn't have my agenda with me so I'd get back to him tomorrow. At that moment however, it was my duty as bridesmaid to eat some cake and tear up the dance floor. 

First Impressions

POI, reticent about his family, did tell me this:

"Don't say anything racist when you meet my mom."

I gave him a half smile, one that said, "You think I'm an idiot?" But the look he returned was serious.

"I'm being serious," he said, "She will hate you."

I rolled my eyes. Became defensive. 

My momma didn't raise no fool. She taught me how to keep racism to myself. Or at least say it in Chinese. 
POI and I had, prior to meeting in person, "met" via text August of last year while he was in San Francisco visiting friends. Over drinks with said friends, he asked to be set up. His friend texted another friend, who texted another friend, E, who happened to be newly friends with me.

E and I had both been bridesmaids last March at a friend's wedding in Taiwan. We knew of each other through our friend, and when we finally met, bonded over each other's good natures - the stuff friendships should be based on. Four months later in July, while in San Francisco for a bachelorette, I called E. We had lunch, then dessert and walked along the water, the whole time discussing my and other young womens' singledom. 

"If New York doesn't work out," E suggested, "move to San Francisco after you graduate. I'll set you up with someone so fast. Someone really great too." 

She nodded proudly around the hip waterfront farm-to-table restaurant we sat in as though she'd asked all the handsome young professional males to assemble there that day. 

"So many great single guys in SF."  

I looked around. The single men weren't labeled, but they were there. I could sense them. 

At the time, my plan was to move to New York and date up a storm. Packing boxes and boxes of Forever 21 clothes and heels which I never had a chance to wear in California, I thought, "Catch ya later, OC fools and LA tools," and facing east and my imagined sassy, future self, "Here comes Hurricane Betty." 

I told E as much as we walked through the Ferry Building hunting for something sweet. Families with small children, tourists and couples took small steps to and fro, poking noses into various food stands – everyone inching towards some sensory delight.

"Dating a lot for fun would be ideal,” E said, "Especially when you just move to the city. But I do hope you meet someone awesome.”

We agreed on a mille-fuille from Miette and the bubbly girl behind the counter, probably spoken for by some young tech billionaire, boxed it up and handed it to me with a big smile.

“Sweets for the single,” her smile said.

E grabbed two biodegradable forks, “I just know from a lot of my friends that it's super hard out there." 

She told me of five specific instances in which girlfriends, on the cusp of becoming self-assigned old maids and fed up with New York's infamously douchebag-deluged dating scene, moved to SF and found almost immediately, if not the one, then, a really good one. 

E lowered her voice and looked around. 

"This is going to sound kind of mean, but the odds here are such that sometimes, I don't even think some of my friends are good enough catches for the guys... but I mean, lucky for them, right?" 

Interesting, I thought. Very interesting. 

We finished the cake. It was time to separate. E had to meet her boyfriend (whom, incidentally, she’d met through friends while abroad) and I with the bachelorette party.

"Good luck in New York!" she said as we hugged goodbye, "Remember, if you’re still single after graduation, move to SF!”

I laughed, wondering if thinking of an entire city – and one I was not nearly as enthusiastic about as other cities (no offense, SF) - as a relationship safety net was self-defeating or premature or both. But certainly it was too early to tell. And besides, one woman’s douchbag deluge might be another’s refreshing and much-needed spring rain. I looked ahead. I had a bachelorette party to prepare for and beyond that, the move to New York.

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